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Five strategies, derived from neuroscience and personal experience, to help navigate feelings of being lost or behind in life.

Recognize the Red Queen Effect: Acknowledge the pressure to constantly run faster just to stay in place, exacerbated by social media comparisons. Counteract time anxiety by questioning why you feel the need to rush and considering what your life would look like without that pressure.
Identify Your Invisible Scripts: Become aware of the cognitive scripts that subconsciously dictate your decisions. These include the sequel script (repeating past choices), the crowd-pleaser script (seeking external validation), and the epic script (striving for something "big"). Recognizing these scripts helps in making more authentic choices.
Embrace Liminal Spaces: Understand that liminal spaces – in-between periods of uncertainty – are normal and can be opportunities for growth. Instead of rushing to escape them, embrace the discomfort and uncertainty.
Escape the Tyranny of Purpose: Shift away from the idea of finding one singular, unchanging purpose. Recognize that purpose is an evolving question, not a fixed destination. Instead, focus on what gives your life meaning in the present season.
Run Tiny Experiments: When feeling lost, shift from linear goals (binary success/failure) to experimen

Why You Feel Lost (And What to Do About it)

Why You Feel Lost (And What to Do About it)

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